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Online Couples Counseling in Connecticut

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Trauma informed couples therapy.

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YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISN’T BROKEN. YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEMS ARE TRYING TO PROTECT YOU.

If you or your partner grew up with emotionally unavailable, critical, abusive, or inconsistent caregivers, you may have learned to protect yourself in ways that are impacting your relationship:

  • Avoiding vulnerability to keep yourself from getting hurt

  • Over-explaining or over-apologizing to maintain peace

  • Feeling emotionally distant or self-isolating when things get overwhelming

  • Struggling to fully trust—even with a loving partner

i’ve done individual therapy, why does nothing change?

Even if you have been in therapy, old wounds can still show up in your relationship making it feel hard to fully trust, emotionally connect, or clearly communicate.


No matter how much you try, you might find yourself:

  • Repeating the same arguments that leave you feeling unheard

  • Feeling triggered by your partner’s reactions, even when you KNOW they aren’t the enemy

  • Shutting down or people pleasing to avoid conflict and keep the peace

  • Feeling like your relationship swings between closeness and disconnection

These patterns AREN’T random—they’re rooted in past attachment wounds, often formed in early childhood. Indiviaul therapy may have helped you gain awareness, but true healing happens IN relationships.

How does trauma focused couples therapy help?

Trauma-Focused Couples Therapy isn’t just about communication skills—it’s about healing the deeper wounds that shape HOW you relate to each other.


Together, we’ll:

  • Identify and heal attachment wounds so past pain no longer controls the present

  • Understand each other’s triggers and how they show up in your dynamic

  • Shift survival-based patterns (like shutting down or over-explaining) into connection-based responses

  • Create a new foundation of trust, safety, and emotional security


When both partners can recognize and heal their own patterns, your relationship transforms.

Signs your relationship might be affected by past traumas

  • You feel like you’re always walking on eggshells, afraid of triggering a reaction

  • Arguments escalate quickly, even when they start over something small

  • One or both of you shut down, withdraw, or emotionally disconnect when conflict arises

  • You struggle to fully trust, be vulnerable, or feel secure in your relationship

  • No matter how much you talk things out, the same painful cycles keep repeating

What makes trauma-focused couples therapy different?

Not Just "Communication Skills" – We work with attachment wounds, nervous system regulation, and trauma responses that show up in relationships.

Healing, Not Just Problem-Solving – We get to the root of why you and your partner react the way you do, so real change happens.

Individual & Relationship Growth – This work doesn’t just strengthen your relationship—it helps each of you feel safer, more secure, and more connected within yourselves.

How we will work together to help your relationship

🔹 Step 1: Understanding the Patterns
We identify how past wounds are showing up in your relationship today and what’s keeping you stuck.

🔹 Step 2: Healing at the Root
Using a trauma-focused approach, we work through triggers, attachment wounds, and nervous system responses.

🔹 Step 3: Rebuilding Safety & Connection
We create new ways of communicating, connecting, and responding that help you both feel seen, heard, and valued.

🔹 Step 4: Strengthening the Relationship
As past wounds heal, we focus on deepening emotional and physical intimacy, trust, and long-term growth.

Who is this for and who is this not for?

✅ This is for you if:
✔ You’ve both done some self-work but still feel stuck in relationship patterns
✔ You want to feel safer, more secure, and more connected in your relationship
✔ You’re open to deep work that goes beyond surface-level fixes

🚫 This may not be the best fit if:
❌ You’re looking for quick-fix strategies without addressing deeper patterns
❌ One or both of you is unwilling to engage in self-reflection and healing
❌ There is ongoing emotional or physical abuse in the relationship

Pricing and other information

  • Standard Session: $150 (53 mins)

  • Some sliding scale spots may be available

  • Forms of payment accepted: Credit Card, Debit Card, HSA, Cash

  • Only offering telehealth at this time

Why I don’t take insurance: To pay for services, insurance companies require a diagnosis. Typically couples coming for therapy do not meet diagnosis requirements that insurance would cover. I have opted out of contracting with insurances for privacy reasons, and also in efforts to avoid systems that do not value my clients or the therapist.

 Some FAQs

  • Unlike traditional couples therapy, we focus on how past trauma and attachment wounds shape your relationship today, so we can break old cycles at the root.

  • That’s completely normal! Therapy is a process, and we’ll create a space that feels comfortable for both of you to explore your experiences without blame or pressure. A benefit of online therapy, is you get to do it from the comfort of your own space, which other couples clients love!

  • Every couple’s journey is different, but most couples begin noticing shifts within the first several sessions as we address deeper patterns.

  • Request your free 15-minute consultation here, and I’ll be in touch via email within 48 business hours to schedule a time to chat. This consultation lets us see if we’re a good fit to work together.

    If we decide to move forward, I’ll guide you through the onboarding process in my client portal and provide a link for our online therapy sessions.

  • Standard Sessions: $150 (53 mins)

    I accept payments by HSA, Credit Card, or Debit Card.

    I do not accept insurance. Typically, couples therapy is not “diagnosable”, which is required by insurance companies for coverage. I have decided to opt out of insurance coverage due to their lack of consideration for the clients and therapist’s well-being.

🖤 Your relationship doesn’t have to be stuck in the same old patterns. With the right support, healing is possible—and your connection can be deeper than ever before.

Schedule a free 15 minute consultation

If you are ready to explore how therapy can help you, please fill out this contact form and I will respond to schedule a consultation.

Please allow up to 48 business hours for a response.

ktam@holistichealingtc.com
(860) 613-5867

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